Heart-distancing isn’t healthy (a closed heart is a lonely place to live)

A closed heart is a lonely place to live. To share from the heart is to tell the truth with openness and vulnerability–to let the inner you come into view.

Some people keep their heart closed to try to protect it. However, heart distancing causes more pain than it avoids.

Our human differences are minimal. If we open our heart to each other, we’ll discover that we’re basically the same.

There’s a big difference between arguments and heart-felt conversations. We have plenty of the former, but not much of the latter. People need to be noticed, heard, and appreciated. They need to feel that their lives matter to their fellow citizens and to their country. They need you to open your heart to them.

When people muster the courage to open up and share from their heart, they feel great release as they step out of the shadows. If you share your mind, other people will either agree or disagree with you. If you share your heart, they’ll connect with you.

If an experience or event reaches your heart, you’ll see it much differently than if it only goes to your brain. Open your heart. If you won’t open up and reveal yourself to others, you shouldn’t complain about being lonely.

People may agree or disagree with your opinions, but they won’t understand who you are, unless you let them see your heart. You won’t make deep, human connections if you only share information or opinions, but refuse to let people see who you really are.

Get angry at your insecurities, fears, compulsions, tormenting thoughts, and painful emotions, not at other people. If you bravely expose your struggles, instead of hiding them behind anger, you’ll give people the chance to be compassionate.

“Church-service-distancing” sits people together in rows, but it doesn’t let them interact, keeping their hearts far apart. Instead of training people to share from their heart, church has trained them to be passive, appear to be listening, and keep their heart a safe distance away from the other people present.

Church has trained Christians to keep their heart closed. However, to love people calls for an open, compassionate heart.

Today there’s a deep heart-cry for equality and justice, coming forth. Perhaps we should humbly listen to it, with an open heart, instead of arrogantly resisting it. America is being given an opportunity–the chance to heal our land with compassion, truth, humility, and racial equality.

Check out my handbook for an open heart @


About Steve Simms

I like to look and think outside the box. In college I encountered Jesus Christ and I have been passionate about trying to get to know Him better ever since. My wife and I long to see the power and passion of the first Christ-followers come to life in our time. I have written a book about our experiences in non-traditional church, called, "Beyond Church: An Invitation To Experience The Lost Word Of The Bible--Ekklesia." If you need encouragement, search for: Elephants Encouraging The Room and/or check out my Amazon author page. Thank you!
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