No mater what
You can choose
In a courteous way.
The failure to be courteous and kind isn’t a minor failure.
Courtesy only costs a little kindness and humility, but it cultivates peace and community. Courtesy handles disagreement with respect, and avoids bullying or calling disagreement hate.
Too much power curtails curtesy and creates an authoritarian attitude. You can try to encourage people or control them, but you can’t do both at once.
Hostility is contagious. So is courtesy. Which are you spreading? Appearance, behavior, beliefs, or life-stage, never make a human life non-human. Show respect to the office every person holds — a human being made in God’s image.
Christianity isn’t a set of values to be forcefully imposed on people. It’s the risen Jesus living His life, in and thru His surrendered followers.