Sometimes in order to “get over it,” you need to cry over it

Un-cried tears leave crusty mineral deposits on your heart and make it as hard as stone. Freedom of expression includes the freedom to cry. Tears reveal an uncensored heart.

Crying demonstrates emotional courage, not mental instability. Refusing to let yourself cry makes about as much sense as refusing let yourself laugh. It takes much more courage to openly cry than it does to hold back your tears.

Blood, sweat, and tears,” if the first two are considered macho, why not the third? “Real men,” holding back their tears, miss out on much healing. If you believe, “Real men don’t cry”, why not, “Real men don’t laugh”? (If tears were feminine, men wouldn’t have tear ducts.)

If laughing was called “hysterical” as quickly as tears are, they’d be a lot less of it. Since laughing in public is acceptable, crying in public should be as well.

If God wanted our tears to be private, why did He make them so obviously visible? Crying faces and overcomes weakness. Denying hides it.

Leaky eyes are a sign of a courageously sensitive heart. To say, “Dry your tears,” is an indirect way to say, “Harden your heart.” Censorship is seen in action when people say, “Don’t cry.” Tear ducts allow uncensored emotion to flow down human cheeks. When you censor your tears, you desensitize your heart.

Most adults’ tears are hidden; kept secret. However, crying is much more common that we know. Many people you encounter every day have recently cried. (If you knew how much the person you don’t like, has secretly cried, you’d feel compassion.) Tears are peacemakers. Seeing an opponent’s pain on his cheeks softens your heart.

If you always stop tears when they try to flow, someday you’ll want to cry and can’t. I think we are uncomfortable with people’s tears because they shout to our soul.

“Don’t cry,” may be the worst advice ever given. To stigmatize crying is to stigmatize depression. Sometimes in order to “get over it,” you need to cry over it. Crying is a safer, healthier way of letting your emotions flow, than anger is.

Many inhibitions and taboos (both social and personal) fight to keep us from crying. People may have denied that they cried, more than they have lied about anything else. Unforced tears are a sign of authenticity.

Both tears and laughter are broader than we think. Sometimes happy people cry. Sometimes sad people laugh. When people share a heart-moving experience, there’s “not a dry eye in the house.”

When the going gets tough, those who think they’re too tough for tears, struggle the most. All tears matter. Let tears of joy, gratitude, relief, compassion, and pain, all have their place in your eyes. Tears weigh less as they roll down your cheeks than when you keep them in your heart.

Let that tear appear. Keeping your eyes dry when you start to cry, denies the heart. When we tear up, it’s frequently a tune up for our heart. Tears are mind altering and heart healing. Drinking and drugs are a poor substitute for God’s healing gift of tears.

Tears go beyond their biological purpose of lubricating the eyes. They also give expression to the heart. It’s a good thing to sometimes allow your heart to flow through your eyes. Tears add a physical dimension to human emotions.

Tear tracks are poetry written on a human face. Tears in your eyes can empower you to see things visible only to the heart. They express things that are too deep for words. Trickle down emotions reveal a tender and courageous heart.

Tears communicate at a deeper level than words by nonverbally revealing the heart. They reveal a person’s humanity and connect people to one another spiritually. People who cry together know each other in a much deeper way than people who don’t.

There’s no shortage of “something to cry about.” Tears of joy come from affection, gratitude, amazement, inspiration, relief, tenderness, achievement, or laughter. They’re good for you. Don’t stop them.

In Western culture, tears are taboo, especially for men. That denies science. To refuse to cry is to deny an important part of your humanity. Heartfelt tears testify that humans are spiritual beings who transcend physiology.

A long drought of tears produces a withered heart. If you’re not careful, drying up all your tears can dry up your soul. In all your streaming, remember; sometimes it’s healthy to stream some tears. Although they flow from the eyes, they cleanse and wash the heart.

Tears are extremely light, but often carry the weight of a broken heart. One solitary tear can be the beginning of a flood of healing and relief. Tears aren’t meant to be buried in the heart, but shed through the eyes.

Heart-felt tears are effortless. If we don’t quench them, they freely flow. The mind often functions better when the heart has been cleansed by tears. People freely give in to their desires, but fight not to give in to their tears.

Why don’t people cry more? Fear of what other people will think about them.

People want to cry alone, but shared tears are important. The Bible says, “Weep with those who weep.” Rom. 12:15. People like to apologize for crying. It’s more biblical to apologize for not crying.

Anger strengthens pride. Crying flows with humility. Often tears are divinely inspired. Be careful not to dismiss them too quickly. If you put man-made eyedrops in your eyes, why not let God-given eyedrops flow from your eyes?

Just because a face shows no trace of tears, it doesn’t mean the heart’s not hurting. If you will sincerely listen to hurting people, you can hear their heart breaking. Eyes moist with tears of compassion, reveal a heart that sees and hears.

Deeply sincere prayer often releases tears. Eye moisture, when connected with emotion, is powerful. If you bury your compassion, you’ll be uncomfortable when you see someone cry.

Black history tells the censored story of trillions of tears caused by injustice. It reveals some of the tears from slavery, Jim Crow and lynching, that have been censored from American history.

Crying is a spiritual gift that opens our heart to God and to people. Maybe that’s why we resist it.

Jesus said to be like little children.
They’re not ashamed to cry.
Jesus wept openly.
Why shouldn’t I?

About Steve Simms

I like to look and think outside the box. In college I encountered Jesus Christ and I have been passionate about trying to get to know Him better ever since. My wife and I co-lead a non-traditional expression of the body of Christ in Nashville based on open participation and Spirit-led sharing. We long to see the power and passion of the first Christ-followers come to life in our time. I have written a book about our experiences called, "Beyond Church: An Invitation To Experience The Lost Word Of The Bible--Ekklesia" that is available in Kindle & paperback @ http://amzn.to/2nCr5dP
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