Cultivating the emotions that you want to feel . . .

To stay healthy, humans reject spoiled food. We can also make life better by rejecting rotten emotions.

Make happiness happen. Deescalate the negative emotions that you feel. Escalate your positive ones.

There’s no reason we can’t decide how we want to feel and then begin to engineer those emotions. That is emotion management–cultivating the feelings that enhance your life.

Uncontrolled emotion is commotion. Negative emotions are often warnings of self-mismanagement.

Emotions follow evaluation and/or perspective. Change your evaluation and/or change your perspective and your feelings about a situation will change.

Thoughts and emotions can be resisted. They only become “yours” when you accept them and “own” them.

Holding on to paralyzing emotions will keep you stuck in motionlessness–feeling the same negativity and torment day after day. Unfortunately, our culture trains us to resist our tender and compassionate feelings but to express our irritable and angry ones.

All feelings are not equal; some will lift you up and others knock you down. Choose wisely which ones to accept and which to resist. One way to overcome negative feelings is to welcome, pursue, and cultivate positive emotions.

Open your heart and mind to good and helpful influences. Close them to bad and harmful ones. When you’re being led by feelings, they’re manipulating you and keeping you from being free. Be led by wisdom instead.

With your freedom of choice, you can choose to disobey any thoughts, feelings, or desires that try to compel you against your will. In all your choosing, choose freedom from compulsion–to not be controlled by your feelings or desires. Make the choice to embrace the best emotions and to reject the ones that try to enslave you or pull you down. It’s not easy, but bad feelings can be resisted and overcome.

Feelings can’t require your obedience. You have the right of resistance. If you can use medication to fight negative feelings, you can also choose to resist them with will power.

You are not your feelings. You are the person who can either accept or resist the feelings that try to rise up within you.

Crying can be helpful as you seek to cultivate healing emotions. I reveals that your heart isn’t hard–that it can still grow, feel, and heal.

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About Steve Simms

I like to look and think outside the box. In college I encountered Jesus Christ and I have been passionate about trying to get to know Him better ever since. My wife and I long to see the power and passion of the first Christ-followers come to life in our time. I have written a book about our experiences in non-traditional church, called, "Beyond Church: An Invitation To Experience The Lost Word Of The Bible--Ekklesia." If you need encouragement, search for: Elephants Encouraging The Room and/or check out my Amazon author page. Thank you!
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