You can try to force life to fit your definition of happiness, or you can simply enjoy being alive. You can began to take control of your thoughts, emotions, and desires, instead of letting them control you.
A person isn’t what he observes inside. He is the being who is doing the observing and either accepting or rejecting the various things that he feels, thinks and desires. I’m not what I think, feel, want, say, or do. I am what I am–the human being either surrendering to or directing those things.
I’m not a desire
Or an emotion;
Not a pronoun
Or a notion
I’m a person.
Pay attention to the mental and emotional activity within you and you’ll notice things (both positive and negative) that conflict with your will. If you let negative thoughts and desires run in the background of your consciousness, they’ll eat away at your emotional well being
The journey to inner freedom begins with recognizing and admitting where you’re in bondage. Open your lies and you’ll see that they’re holding you in bondage to untruth, distortion, and deception.
There is more to people than what you observe. Getting to know them at a deeper level reveals that they’re more like you than you think.
If you haven’t closely examined (from many angles) what you’re talking about, there’s a good chance you’re not seeing it clearly. We humans are beings who can grow in our ability to make choices that set us free, rather than decisions that tie us down. Whoever you are, be free, not compelled by thoughts, feelings, or desires.