Tears are often a sign that people have the strength and the courage to open up their heart. A culture that refuses to welcome and appreciate tears, (or humiliates those who cry), makes it hard for people to open their heart. Tears have an amazing power to open people’s heart. That’s why people with closed hearts, don’t want to see anybody cry.
To fight to hold back your tears is to fight against your own healing and relief that will flow through them. Perhaps the world would be a better place if we lowered the “crytearia” for tears — if tears were appreciated and allowed to flow, instead of hidden in embarrassment. So many people have been trained that, “It’s bad to let anybody see you cry,” so they feel forced to cry in secret and thus they deprive others of the opportunity to comfort them and to “weep with those who weep.”
Perhaps when open tears are taboo, much inner healing is missed, and that pain finds other means of expression like anger. To refuse to cry is to desensitize yourself. To be “unable” or unwilling to cry is to miss out on a powerful means of inner healing.
Most of us are encouraged to dry our eyes too soon, way before the healing process is done. The belief that crying should be avoided, robs many people of healing for their heart and of compassion for the needs of others. Crying is a human right. Perhaps we shouldn’t try to stop people from doing it.
Crying is a shower for the heart, cleansing it from life’s debris. When tears begin to flow from your eyes, you’re not far from the presence of God. Pride opposes tears. Perhaps the fear of shedding tears also comes from insecurity.
Tears are both natural (that’s why we have tear ducts) and supernatural (that’s why we have a heart). It’s not good to hold them back. To tell someone, “Don’t cry,” is to ignore his need for tears, because his exposed heart is making you uncomfortable.
Are tears part of the “crytearia” for spiritual growth? “I served the Lord with great humility and with tears.” –Acts 20:19 (NIV) When tears are prompted by the Holy Spirit, to hold them back is to quench the Spirit and reject a gift from God. Instead of feeling awkward when we see someone crying, the Bible says that we should cry with them. “Weep with those who weep.” Perhaps church needs to train people how to cry along side of people who are crying.
When your mind can’t quantify what is happening to you, perhaps your eyes can liquefy it with tears and bring you peace. It’s one thing to study the causes of violence in our society. It’s another thing to cry about it. Perhaps we need both.
Tears don’t always come from sadness or lack of self-control. They’re often a sign of happiness and a courageously sensitive soul. Tears are multipurpose. They can flow from: joy, sadness, compassion, physical pain, remorse, love, grief, heartbreak, worship.
Verbal attacks often leave hidden (heart-broken) tear tracks. Be kind. What an odd time we live in. People brag about their sins, but are ashamed to let anyone see them cry.