Can Real Love Disagree And/Or Disapprove?

Can real love disagree and/or disapprove?  Yes.  I know that it can.  If you read my blog, you know that I am willing to think in uncommon ways.  I have many ideas and some behaviors that are not commonly accepted in our society.

Even the people who love me the most disagree with and disapprove of some of my beliefs and behaviors. (Pacifism/anti-war, vegetarianism, speaking in tongues, deep passion to follow and obey Jesus, believing sermons to be mostly ineffective, believing that Jesus can run a church meeting better than a human can, my belief that the church is spiritual and not institutional, getting emotional in public, etc.)

And that’s okay.  I love them too.  Our love is not based on mutual admiration and approval but on openness and honesty and deep caring for and commitment to each others well-being (even when we disagree).

So why is honest disapproval/disagreement often called hate speech in our culture?  I don’t get it.  Maybe we just don’t understand what true love is.

(For a quick overview of more of my out-of-the-box views see my 95 theses.)

About Steve Simms

I like to look and think outside the box. In college I encountered Jesus Christ and I have been passionate about trying to get to know Him better ever since. My wife and I co-lead a non-traditional expression of the body of Christ in Nashville based on open participation and Spirit-led sharing. We long to see the power and passion of the first Christ-followers come to life in our time. I have written a book about our experiences called, "Beyond Church: An Invitation To Experience The Lost Word Of The Bible--Ekklesia" that is available in Kindle & paperback @
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10 Responses to Can Real Love Disagree And/Or Disapprove?

  1. Jim Wright says:

    I disagree! 😉

    Actually, yet another good blog coming from the perspective of actual community. Thanks.

  2. elizabeth s says:


  3. Real love affords us the opportunity to express our disagreements at times and still be loving!

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