Category Archives: self-image

Is “You’re very self-loving,” a compliment?

Posted on November 11, 2022 by Steve Simms

It’s not a compliment to tell someone, “You are very self-loving.” When you tell someone, “I love you,” you wouldn’t want them to say, “I love me, too.” Your hope is that they will express love back to you. I … Continue reading →

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Self-focus is confusing, not identifying

Posted on November 4, 2022 by Steve Simms

Self-denial’s notSelf-sacrifice,But a pearlOf great priceThat leadsTo paradise. Self-focus blurs everything else. Self is like a telescope. If you focus on it, you won’t see much but if you use it to look beyond it, you’ll see a glorious universe. … Continue reading →

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What can decode me and my identity?

Posted on October 13, 2022 by Steve Simms

As long asOur thoughtsAre a messAnd our inner lifeIs full of stressWe know far lessAbout our identityThan we think we do. When you thinkOther peopleAre very different than you,It’s just not true.We all haveThe same identity–Human. Our prideTends to hideThe … Continue reading →

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My selfie (me, not a self-made pic of me) gets me in trouble

Posted on March 11, 2019 by Steve Simms

“Me” is a tiny word that can cause treMEndous problems. An effective way to make yourself unhappy is to go through life continually asking, “Am I happy now? A missionless life is often unhappy. If you really want to pursue … Continue reading →

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Mental apps have terms & conditions

Posted on January 29, 2017 by Steve Simms

Be careful what apps you allow to be installed in your psyche! Don’t accept everything that pops up in your mental app store. When a tormenting app pops up in your mind, don’t agree with its terms & conditions. If … Continue reading →

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Seeking self-satisfaction is an endless whirlpool of “me, my, and mine” — a downward spiral, swirling with discouragement, depression, and despair. The search for self-fulfillment is a misery making myth that sucks the life out of people, throwing them into a raging stream of self-sedation and mindless medication. The only rescue is the recovery of self-denial — passionately following a cause that is greater than self — losing yourself in serving others.

Posted on August 20, 2016 by Steve Simms
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Express yourself or suppress yourself?

Posted on August 2, 2016 by Steve Simms

Contrary to popular opinion, continual self-expression leads to depression, stress, and duress. For example, contemporary culture has opened the door to almost unlimited self-expression, yet, rather than producing widespread happiness and fulfillment, we have some of the highest depression and … Continue reading →

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Beyond IT “potato sorting” to nonmaterial reality

Posted on May 7, 2016 by Steve Simms

Computers are glorified potato sorters (separating electrons rather than potatoes). People translate data into electronic codes and then a computer sorts, arranges, categorizes, stores, and retrieves those coded electrons as directed by a person (or a program written by a person). … Continue reading →

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Self-protection or self-surrender? (Suspicion or love?)

Posted on August 19, 2014 by Steve Simms

Self-protection produces isolation, defensiveness, self-focus, and alienation from others. Self-surrender produces openness, understanding, community, and mutuality. Self-protection quenches the Holy Spirit and will keep God distant from you. Self-surrender opens the flood gates and lets God’s rivers of grace and … Continue reading →

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Biblical Christianity / Following Christ

Posted on July 30, 2013 by Steve Simms

Following the living, resurrected Jesus Christ (biblical Christianity / Jesus’ command to: “Follow Me.”) is about: Self-surrender, not self-assertion; Self-control, not self-fulfillment; Self-denial, not self-righteousness; Self-restraint, not self-indulgence; Self-discipline, not self-destruction; Self-sacrifice, not self-importance; Self-effacement, not self-promotion; Self-regulation, not self-interest; … Continue reading →

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