Category Archives: self-restraint

Self-forgetfulness is powerful. Try it.

Posted on November 10, 2022 by Steve Simms

My will and God’s willAre often in conflictAnd then I must chooseWho’s will to restrict.And who’s will to pick.The more I love my will,The harder it is to say,“Not my will,But Yours be done.” Self-focusBlurs realityAnd makes me forgetThat it’s … Continue reading →

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My selfie (me, not a self-made pic of me) gets me in trouble

Posted on March 11, 2019 by Steve Simms

“Me” is a tiny word that can cause treMEndous problems. An effective way to make yourself unhappy is to go through life continually asking, “Am I happy now? A missionless life is often unhappy. If you really want to pursue … Continue reading →

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Temptations are life’s train wreckers

Posted on September 4, 2018 by Steve Simms

Temptations are life’s train wreckers. They attempt to steal your identity and to make you a prisoner of desires and feelings. People who always cooperate with temptation never realize what a strong force has control of their life. If you don’t … Continue reading →

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Seeking self-satisfaction is an endless whirlpool of “me, my, and mine” — a downward spiral, swirling with discouragement, depression, and despair. The search for self-fulfillment is a misery making myth that sucks the life out of people, throwing them into a raging stream of self-sedation and mindless medication. The only rescue is the recovery of self-denial — passionately following a cause that is greater than self — losing yourself in serving others.

Posted on August 20, 2016 by Steve Simms
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Express yourself or suppress yourself?

Posted on August 2, 2016 by Steve Simms

Contrary to popular opinion, continual self-expression leads to depression, stress, and duress. For example, contemporary culture has opened the door to almost unlimited self-expression, yet, rather than producing widespread happiness and fulfillment, we have some of the highest depression and … Continue reading →

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Self-fulfillment is a fantasy (a recipe for misery)

Posted on May 25, 2016 by Steve Simms

Self-fulfillment is a fantasy. Our self-desires are never fully fulfilled. Self always seeks something more. Even when self gets what it wants and the “rights” that it demands, it immediately cries out for more. Self is continually discontented and constantly … Continue reading →

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3 Streams Of Human Thought-Talk (Internal Communication)

Posted on July 12, 2014 by Steve Simms

3 Streams of Internal Human Communication The flow of thought-talk (internal communication) through the human mind is called often self-talk or the stream of consciousness.  Many people are confused and falsely believe that all of the thought that passes through their … Continue reading →

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Biblical Christianity / Following Christ

Posted on July 30, 2013 by Steve Simms

Following the living, resurrected Jesus Christ (biblical Christianity / Jesus’ command to: “Follow Me.”) is about: Self-surrender, not self-assertion; Self-control, not self-fulfillment; Self-denial, not self-righteousness; Self-restraint, not self-indulgence; Self-discipline, not self-destruction; Self-sacrifice, not self-importance; Self-effacement, not self-promotion; Self-regulation, not self-interest; … Continue reading →

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Enticements or Ethics / Cravings or Conscience / Passions or Principles

Posted on May 31, 2013 by Steve Simms

We live in a society that is big on enticements to follow and obey our desires, but little on ethical living — big on obeying cravings but little on following our conscience — big on surrendering to self-destructive passions, but … Continue reading →

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Judgement, Guilt, Sorrow, Mercy, Forgiveness

Posted on May 16, 2013 by Steve Simms

Where there is no judgment; There is no mercy. Where there is no guilt; There is no grace. If you haven’t been judged guilty, There is no forgiveness. Where there is no threat of punishment, there is no justice. Where … Continue reading →

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