I love to express what I feel called to say. Writing helps me to open up my heart and do that. I hope that what I write helps you in some way. I hope it makes you think, encourages you, or inspires you. If it challenges you or if you disagree, I hope you know that I respect your right to have a different point of view.
Automatic doors Open and close On my life’s journey: Sudden disappointments, And surprise opportunities. Yet some how I know That God runs the show Like He did when Joseph Was wrongfully sent to jail So he could be chosen To rule Egypt for Pharoah.
When God closes a door and you try to climb through a window, that means you’ve messed the message of the closed door. God sometimes shuts doors to help you find Jesus.
When I resist following Jesus through the doors that He opens, my life gets off the hinges.When you try hard but can’t get a door to open, there’s a good chance that God is keeping it shut to protect you.
God’s closed doors are His “Do Not Enter” signs. We need to use discernment to recognize the difference between God’s closed doors and the devil’s hindrance.
To be led by the Spirit we need to cultivate our awareness of the Spirit’s inner promptings and the wisdom to confirm them with Scripture.When God closes a door, and the devil tries to make you bitter it’s better not to listen to him.
When Jesus knocks on the door of your heart, it’s best not to leave Him outside knocking.Jesus has an open-door policy. He won’t reject anyone who sincerely and humbly comes to Him.
Jesus is the Vine
The sap in the Vine Flows just fine And the Vine Invites us branches To abide and align With the Divine So that we can dine And consume new wine From God’s Spirit. Yet we the branches Too often confine And limit the sap flow By quenching the Spirit. Let’s repent and incline Our hearts to the Lord So that the Vine Can cause us to shine!
The Gospel (Good News) isn’t that you can love yourself. It’s that God so loved you that He gave His only Son . . .”
Me to me love, From me to me, Stays stuck in me. Lord, help me see And love both My neighbor and My enemy.
Self-love doesn’t go beyond me to anyone else. To love one another we need to embrace neighbor-love.
I continually sense a tender wooing to enter deeper into spontaneous, unforced, and unprogrammed heart-to-heart interaction with the living Jesus. I think guilt, rebellion, and pride are the biggest blockers of our awareness of God’s love for us. Those are overcome by embracing humility, confession, repentance, and the direct, ongoing, and glorious revelation that we are being personally and deeply loved and transformed by the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit and invited to enter more fully into their intimacy.
Self-love often leads people down the deceptive path of self-gratification, but self-focused desires are never fully gratified.Many of the modern movements away from Christian morality use self-love as their justification.
People who refuse to heed their need for self-control often wind up being caught up in hedonism while calling it self-love.Self-love is often used to justify divorce, drunkenness, adultery, other sexual wrongdoing, and abortion.
Self-love wants to feel good. It grapples around for pleasure, but Christ’s love gives meaning and purpose.Self-love tends to gravitate towards self-focus and pride. Christ’s love for me is based on mercy and grace.
The more I strain To love myself The more I’m caught In a heavy chain. Instead of helping me gain Inner peace, It increases my pain. But when I bask In Jesus’ love for me I’m lifted to another plain.
Trying to love myself Takes lots of work. Accepting Jesus’ love Fills me with joy!
Christ’s love for me Is so amazing And life changing. Seeing what a treasure I am in His eyes Frees me from The back-breaking burden Of trying to love myself.
Christians are sometimes compared to an army — onward Christian soldiers. But no army trains its soldiers to love themselves.
The Second Greatest Commandment wasn’t given to justify self-love but to direct the care and concern you have for yourself toward your neighbor.No amount of self-love that I could ever give myself can even register in my heart compared to Jesus’ great love for me.
Should Christians be self-lovers? A loud voice from Heaven said this about Christ-followers: “They triumphed over him (the devil) by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” Revelation 12:11.
If Jesus wants His followers to love themselves, why did He require self-denial? “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be My disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow Me.” –Matthew 16:24.
Why does the Bible put being “lovers of self” as the first in a list of sins characteristic to the last days? –2 Timothy 3:4.The Bible says: “Join with me in suffering like a good soldier of Jesus Christ.” That sounds like self-sacrifice, not self-love.
The Bible’s “love chapter” says that love isn’t boastful, proud, or self-seeking. A self-love focus seems to contradict that.Self-love can make us forget about our neighbor.
That love, care, and concern you’ve been giving to yourself; give it to your neighbor.I believe that’s why God gave the Second Greatest Commandment.You can “love your neighbor as yourself,” but to “love your enemies” you have to go beyond self-love to God’s supernatural love
Self-love doesn’t like and usually tries to avoid the low place of humility, brokenness, and being “poor in spirit.” Speaking in tongues takes us beyond self-love by sweeping away self-focus and fixing our attention on the risen Jesus.
It’s much more powerful to focus on adoring and obeying the living Jesus than to spend time and effort trying to love yourself.When I speak in tongues, I lose my self-concern as rivers of living water flow out of my innermost being and focus me on Jesus.The more I speak in tongues the more I’m aware of Jesus’ presence and love and the less need I feel to love myself.
When I pray in tongues it’s like I’m spiritually hang-gliding. Jesus is hanging on to me and causing me to gloriously soar with Him.
I believe that every Christian can pray in tongues, but many don’t receive that gift because of reasons like misunderstanding, fear, unbelief, or pride. (I don’t think any person alive on the planet is 100% free of the sins of fear, unbelief, and pride.)
Speaking in tongues is like opening a faucet deep inside you that releases a surging flow of God’s presence as unknown words spontaneously pour out of your mouth. When I speak in tongues, I sense God’s presence and love as if I was in an amazingly anointed agape gathering.
Often, when I wake up in the night, I lay peacefully in bed and pray in tongues silently in my mind. That breaks my self-love-focus and before long I’m asleep.
In 1 Corinthians Paul says “I would you all speak in tongues . . .” He goes on to say he would rather that we prophesy, but that doesn’t negate that he wants all to speak in tongues. Speaking in tongues is like walking on water. In both cases we of our own accord take the action. We walk in faith and God keeps us from sinking. We move our lips in faith and do the speaking and God releases tongues the moment we begin to speak (not before). If Peter had passively waited in the boat until he saw the water become solid, he would have never walked on water.
The most powerful tools in my Christian life are: 1) Hearing and obeying God’s inner promptings, 2) Daily Bible reading with an open heart, 3) Frequently praying in tongues, 4) Praying and basking in the Spirit with other people, and 5) Being quick to confess, turn away from, and avoid sin.
According to the Bible’s “love chapter” I’m not very good at love. I need to rely on God’s supernatural love, not on my self-love.Self-love makes us want to hide our sins like Adam and Eve did. God’s love empowers us to confess, turn away from and avoid sins.
According to the dictionary you can’t have a love relationship with yourself. A relationship is ‘the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected.'”
If you feel like you’re overgrown with emotional, mental, and spiritual weeds, you’ve been ignoring your soul’s soil.If Christians sought the spiritual fruit of self-control as much as we try to love ourselves, we’d experience more inner healing.
O that Christ’s people Would regularly Come together In agape gatherings And let God’s love Freely flow from Their innermost being To pour out on Jesus And on each another Until the whole world Says in astonishment, “Look how they love One another!” (That’s ekklesia!)
On Monday morning Sunday’s gone And church has faded From the rear-view mirror. That’s the time to move To the passenger seat And let the living Jesus Drive you to all The destinations That He has planned For you during the week.
Any gathering that doesn’t lavishly overflow with God’s agape love falls far short of the New Testament ekklesia. Ekklesia sets Christianity free from religious organization and control!People who respond to sincere criticism of church with denial or defensiveness are on the wrong side of history’s Reformation.
Church isn’t the primary time or place to focus on Jesus. Daily life is! Throughout the day let the risen continually saturate your mind and your heart with His presence, power, and love. Let “Christ in you” gloriously surge in and through you in all you say and do.
To pastor is to train and empower people to follow and obey the alive Jesus with God’s agape love. It’s not about giving them lots of religious lectures.
E. Stanley Jones who was an American Methodist missionary to India wrote: “This is the central weakness of organized Christianity—it preaches salvation through Christ, but not salvation in Christ.” He also wrote that it is an amazing discovery that people “. . . may have Jesus without the system that has been built up around Him in the West.”
Organized Christianity and Spirit-led Christianity rarely work together. Organized Christianity tends to hinder the freedom of the Holy Spirit. I believe that Jesus wants to set Christianity free from the domination of human organization.
Organized Christianity, Like a closed retail store, Keeps people Stuck at the door. It doesn’t train them To enter in And to begin To actively adore And fully surrender To the risen Jesus 24/7/365.
Life’s a trip That will trip You up. Don’t stay down. Let Jesus Lift you up.
We can’t Plead the fifth And receive God’s mercy At the same time. Mercy begins When we confess Our sins.
Have appreciation For God’s creation And adoration For the Creator.
Jesus is the vine. We are the branches. It’s time to thrive And be really alive Hang with Jesus 24/7/365.
Self-forgiveness and self-love are based on things that you try to do. God’s forgiveness and God’s love are based on what God has done for you. Rely on God working in you, not on your own self-effort.
An older woman who was in love with Jesus confessed something to me that she had been trying to forgive herself for over many decades. She wept as she told me how as a young adult, she had helped a boyfriend sink the body of a man who he had murdered. I was weeping with her. Suddenly I found myself saying in a bold, firm voice, something like: “You’re forgiven! The blood of Jesus has washed you clean.” I repeated it several times. Her mouth fell open and in a moment of revelation her tears changed from great remorse to great relief. The great sin that she couldn’t forgive herself for was washed away by faith in the blood and finished work of Jesus.
Too many people are using self-effort trying to forgive themselves and failing over and over again, when all they need is to accept, receive, and truly rely on Christ’s forgiveness. If you have confessed any sin with sincere remorse and repentance, I say unto you: “You are forgiven! The blood of Jesus has washed you clean!”
Your being loved and forgiven can’t be based on your feelings and self-effort. Self-love and self-forgiveness are built on the shaky foundation self, not on the solid rock of the risen Jesus. Don’t focus on whether you feel forgiven and loved. Focus on the fact that you are forgiven and loved!
Still having trouble forgiving and/or loving yourself? Apostle Paul’s statement, “I consider my life worth nothing to me,” sounds like he wasn’t good at it either.However, awe-fully basking in God’s love and forgiveness for you is so fulfilling that it will relieve any need you feel to love and forgive yourself.
Self-love and self-forgiveness are like trying to use your own power and effort to remove a logjam one log at a time. However, it’s much more effective to open wide the floodgates of your heart and let God’s love and forgiveness come roaring in and wash your logjam away in an instant.
Self-focus, Whether proud Or disdainful, Winds up Being painful.
Self-love Makes it easier To believe Things that deceive.
Self-love is confined and is limited to one solitary individual–you. Neighbor-love is expansive and can reach the whole world. If you get your thoughts, emotions, and desires off of yourself you’ll feel better.
It’s as dangerous to think too high of yourself as it is to think too low of yourself. It’s often more important to say no to yourself than it is to know yourself. Instead of sitting and thinking about yourself, get up and encourage someone else.
“Humble yourself.” Humility is the absence of self-focus.Self-love wants to impress people and/or get their approval. Humility shifts us away from self-focus and into serving people.
The Second Greatest Commandment commands neighbor-love while assuming self-love. If you minimize your thoughts about yourself, you’ll maximize your happiness. My happiest moments are when I’m not thinking about myself.
If criticism bothers you, it’s a sign of self-focus and pride. Follow God’s heart. Humility comes from self-forgetfulness and focusing on God’s forgiveness and mercy, not from self-criticism.Our concept of greatness is an illusion of fame but Jesus said that the greatest shall be the least.
Self-love makes it difficult to fully embrace painful truth. Self-love makes us think that we are competent to run our own life and only need God as an occasional back-up. When you feel bad about yourself that’s an invitation to surrender yourself to the living Jesus.
Try focusing on Jesus instead of yourself. Jesus commands us to love other people, not to compare ourselves to them.
Self-forgetfulness frees you to experience the joy of caring about and serving others.Self-consciousness shuts down joy and peace. Being continually conscious of the presence of Jesus ignites them.
The less you think about yourself, the more you can think about Jesus and other people.The more you forget about yourself and focus on the risen Jesus the more insecurity and self-consciousness fade away.The more we learn to be aware of and care about the needs and troubles of other people the more we forget our own.
Like the Pharisee’s prayer, self-love tends to look for people to look down on so it can feel better about itself.
Loving others, Focusing on their desires And feelings, Requires That you set aside Your own. Be someone who inspires, Not someone Who stays stuck In your own desires.
Love yourself? “Humble yourself.” “Turn the other cheek.” “Take the lowest place.” “Bless those who curse you.” “Blessed are the poor in spirit.” “Blessed are those who mourn.” “Seek first the kingdom of God.” “No one is good–except God alone.” “Hunger and thirst for righteousness.” “Whoever wants to save their life will lose it.” “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow Me.”
It’s not a compliment to tell someone, “You are very self-loving.” When you tell someone, “I love you,” you wouldn’t want them to say, “I love me, too.” Your hope is that they will express love back to you. I think God feels the say way. What Christians call “self-love” is too often a subtle form of ego-gratification.
Self-love wants to avoid sacrifice. Love for God embraces it.Jesus commanded us to “Love your enemies.” He never commanded us to “Love yourself.”
When people love a sports team, they set aside their self-focus and adore the team. Surely Christians can do the same for God.Trying to increase your self-love is frustrating, but every openhearted look at the living Jesus will grow your love for Him.
Jesus never said, “Go into all the world and love yourself.” He said, “Go into all the world and make disciples (sold-out Christ-followers).
“Have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” –Philippians 2:5. Jesus’ mindset was self-sacrifice, not self-love.
Self-love asks the question, “How am I feeling?” A better question is: “How can I open up my life more fully to God’s will?”
Philippians chapter 2 shows how Jesus laid down His life for others. He didn’t cling to His life or try to pamper or protect Himself. Instead, He hung on the cross, suffered, died, and as the Apostles Creed says, “descended into Hell,” giving it all in acts of self-sacrificing love. For me, suffering leads me to freedom from self-consciousness. In my pain, my focus is drawn to God. Instead of trying to love myself, my will, and my desires, I’m compelled to let them go and I cry out to God for mercy, healing, and deliverance thus finding ever-growing dependence on the risen Jesus.
Trying to love myself traps me in painful self-focus. Surrendering to God’s love for me frees me from self-consciousness.
2 Timothy 3 lists the sins of the last days. The first one listed is: “People will be lovers of themselves.” Self-love is a trap.
The human problem isn’t a lack of self-love. It’s self obsession. Many times, the New Testament commands us to “love one another” but it only refers to self-love the few times when it quotes the 2nd Greatest Commandment from the Old Testament (which assumes that we humans already love and prioritize ourselves). “Love one another,” is a command but loving yourself is human nature.
My will and God’s will Are often in conflict And then I must choose Who’s will to restrict. And who’s will to pick. The more I love my will, The harder it is to say, “Not my will, But Yours be done.”
Self-focus Blurs reality And makes me forget That it’s all Not about me.
My self-will Tells me That it’s a thrill. Instead, it’s usually A poison pill That tries to spill My inner peace.
Step out of Your self-will And you will Be able to see Life more clearly.
Think about when you were the happiest. Then you will remember the joy of self-forgetfulness. Self-focus crowds out happiness.
Neither self-loving nor self-loathing brings inner peace but self-surrender to the living Jesus does! When we lay down our will by setting aside our pride and forgetting our self-focus, we can let God take control, Then He makes all things work together for our good like a beautiful mosaic.
The more I forget about myself and concentrate on Jesus the happier I am and the freer I am to love other people. The more I care about and focus on my needs and desires, the less inner peace I have.
Without self-forgetfulness it’s very hard to focus on other people and their needs. When offense rises up inside of you, don’t take it! Instead, choose “speaking the truth in love.”
Without self-focus it’s hard to take offense at what other people say and do. Instead, we can have mercy and compassion for them. Pride is quickly offended; humility rarely is.
Self-focus is a huge obstacle to inner peace. Self-focus is nerve wracking. Christ-focus is comforting.
