Modern Myth #11 — Cravings & Compulsions Are Uncontrollable

Did Moses come down from the mountain with an 11th Commandment: “Thou cannot resist thy cravings and thy compulsions so do your thang man?” I don’t think that came from Moses, but it is a widespread myth in today’s world.  Modern Myth #11 says: “Compulsions and cravings are uncontrollable.”

We hear it all the time: “I was born this way,” ”It’s genetic,” “He can’t help himself,” “That’s just the way I am,” — but are those statements true? Do human beings really have no choice but to meekly obey their desires and impulses? Of course not!

We humans have the ability to resist and to overcome any craving or “genetic tendency” that hits us. We are not irrational animals who have no choice but to obey our instincts.

We humans have a brain — we have the ability to make wise decisions about our behaviors. We have a free will — we have the power to freely choose our behaviors, independent of our manipulative compulsions.

However, it is very hard work to use our brain and our free will. It is so much easier (in the short-term) to just go with the flow of desire, to drift off the cliff of self-destructive cravings. So we embrace the denial that comes with Modern Myth #11 and say:  “I have no control over this desire. I am not responsible. It’s in my genes.” And we dance in our prison uniforms to the twisted tunes of our tendencies.

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66 Books (That Everybody Needs To Read)

There are 66 books that everybody needs to read.  These books were written by more than 40 diverse authors — rich people and poor people, intellectuals and uneducated folks.   These 66 books were written over a 1,500 year time period.  Some of these books are poetry; some are history; some are letters; some are biography, some are exhortations.

An amazing thing about these 66 books is that in the 4th Century AD they were brought together as a unit.  As diverse as they are, they fit together so well that for centuries they have been considered to be one book. 

These 66 books have the power to radically transform human lives.  Through out history millions of people have testified to the fact that reading these books lifted their heart, their thinking, and their life to amazing new levels.  

When I first began to read these books 41 years ago, they began to change me at the depths of my being.   I seldom find a book that I will reread.  Not so with these 66 books — I’ve read them over and over and over — and they still burn in my heart, challenge me, and inspire me to be a better man.

An amazing thing about these books is that they are brutally honest — they call a spade a spade.  Most history books put a spin on history and make the heroes look superhuman.  For example, American history books make George Washington and Thomas Jefferson look almost godlike.  They fail to tell the details of their terrible cruelty to their fellow humans — how they forcibly held innocent men, women, and children in bondage, made them work without pay, whipped them if they disobeyed, and wouldn’t let them read any of the 66 books (or even learn to read for that matter).

However, the 66 books are just the opposite.  Unlike distorted history books written by human beings, these 66 books reveal the bad things about their heroes, in shocking and vivid detail.

Bound together, these 66 books are the number one best seller in human history.  The best selling English translation of these books was first translated 500 years ago this year and is known as the KJV.  Through the KJV (and other translations) these books have been the greatest literary influence on Western culture and thought.

Everybody should read these books.  It would be a shame to die having missed out on the best books ever written. 

If I had to pick a favorite of the 66 books, I think I would pick Acts, with Matthew, James, and John right behind.  My least favorite is probably Leviticus.  However, they have all impacted me powerfully.  They are a mirror — they reveal my heart and call me to come clean of my wrongful thoughts and deeds.  They challenge me to be totally honest, to love and serve people, and to live right.

Why not give the 66 books a chance?  Why not read one of them today?

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Finding Nashville’s Most Unique Church With Your GPS

 –Get out your GPS (God’s Positioning System)–

Enter that you are looking for a church where:

* People are more important than programs;

* Encouragement is more important than entertainment

* Love is more important than liturgy:

* Faith is more important than fund raising:

* Participation is more important than passivity;

* Jesus Christ is more important than concepts and theology:

If you enter 225 Berry Street, Nashville, TN, 37207, your GPS will lead you to Nashville’s most unique church — The Salvation Army Berry Street Worship Center — which meets on Sunday mornings at 10:45.  

Our meetings are more like a support group than a lecture series.  People show and tell what God has done in their lives creating a contagion of excitement about Jesus.  This type of church is called by several names:  simple church, house church, organic church.  However words can’t describe it very well.  Come and experience this for yourself.  It is always amazing!

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What Would Your Life Be Like If . . .

How would you be today if you had been born to a mother in poverty with several children by different men? What if you had been surrounded by depression, anger, fear, hopelessness, and despair? How would you be if you had grown up in the middle of violence, drugs, profanity, and vulgarity? What if you had never known any other way to live, how would you be today?

I used to ask groups of men in the rehab where I used to work this question: How many of you have never known even one godly man, a man who doesn’t cheat, lie, steal, cuss, get drunk, use drugs, practice sexual sin, or be mean to others? Sometimes 80% of the guys would raise their hand! How would you be today if you had never known even one godly man?

It is so easy to look down on others. But how would you be today if you had lived in their shoes from birth? Why would you be any different than they are?

Environment is powerful programming. True, a few people rise beyond the programming of their childhood, but many are stuck. How do the few make it? They have a positive example — an encouraging mentor who offers practical help. A man or woman who is living a better quality of life befriends them and builds a loving, helping relationship with them demonstrating the love of Jesus Christ in practical ways.

America, however, is set up to separate people according to economics and social status. People who desperately need the love and help of a positive mentor are kept away from vital, personal relationships with those who could redirect their lives. There are millions of Americans who don’t have even one neighbor or family friend who is financially or socially better off than they are.

How would you be today if no one had ever helped you get a job or into a college? How would you be if no one had paid the money to buy all the advantages you had growing up? How would you be today if you had never had a friend or caring relationship with anyone who wasn’t struggling financially and discouraged?

Many of us have had great advantages in this culture. We’ve been helped along. We have been handed opportunity. We have been loved, disciplined, and parented well.

Everybody in America is not so fortunate. Perhaps it is time we begin to cross some socio-economic lines and become close personal friends with someone who is caught in a negative environment.

If you are looking for a place where you can make a difference in people’s lives, come and visit a church built on love, relationships, and community:  The Salvation Army Berry Street Worship Center, 225 Berry St., Nashville, TN, 37207 on Sundays at 10:45 am.

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Modern Myth #10 — Disapproval Is A Form Of Hatred

Somehow our society has accepted and promotes the mythological idea that to disapprove is to hate. If you don’t approve of someone’s behavior nowadays, you might be accused of hate speech or of having a phobia. This however, is nonsense.

Even the people who love me the most, my immediate family, sometimes disapprove of my ideas or actions. But they still love me very much! Their love for me has nothing whatsoever to do with their approval or disapproval of my beliefs and behaviors.

So why is it any different in society? If you disapprove of lying, that doesn’t mean that you hate liars. Someone you love dearly may frequently lie, but you still love her or him, don’t you? Just because you disapprove of and/or offer criticism to a person for lying, doesn’t make you a hater, does it?

People who demand that other people approve of their behaviors have a very poor self-image. After all, no one on earth is completely approved of by everybody. Just look at the US President (no matter who he or she is).

Millions of people are constantly disapproving of what the President says and does. Does the President turn around and call those who disapprove of him haters or phobics? Of course not. He or she is too secure of an individual to fall for that myth! And neither should the rest of us! We need to deny the lie that says that to disapprove is to hate!

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Modern Myth #9 — All Religions Are Equal

Modern Myth #9 is the belief that all religions are equal or true. MTV and The Associated Press recently asked young people between the ages of 13 and 24 to choose between two statements about their views of religious faiths other than their own.

68% agreed with this statement: “I follow my own religious and spiritual beliefs, but I think other religious beliefs could be true as well.” 31% picked this one: “I strongly believe that my religious beliefs are true and universal and that other religious beliefs are not right.”

Now the problem with the first statement is that religions contradict each other. Take monotheism (the belief in only one God as in Judaism, Islam, and Christianity) and polytheism (the belief in many gods as in Hinduism, Mormonism, and the religions of ancient Rome and Greece). How can the Jewish statement, “There is only one God,” and the Hindu statement, “There are more than a million gods,” both be true? Both statements could be false if atheists are right; but both statements cannot be correct. If one statement is right, logic says the other is wrong. (To disagree with this is anti-intellectual.)

Personally I choose to believe in monotheism. By making the choice of monotheism, I have rejected polytheism because it is the opposite of monotheism and opposite or contradictory beliefs cannot both be true at the same time. (For example, if I believe I am 6 feet tall, I can’t at the same time logically say that people who believe I am 7 feet tall are also correct.) Thus by choosing monotheism, I have chosen to believe that polytheism is incorrect in its belief in many gods.

Now logic does not imply intolerance. I respect the right of people to believe in and proclaim polytheism even though I believe it is wrong. I also appreciate and agree with many of the ethical teachings of polytheism. They may be wrong about the number of gods, but they are correct in many of their moral ideas. One of my greatest heroes, Mahatma Gandhi, was a Hindu.

So are all religions true? All religions contain some truth, but all religions cannot be correct in their contradictory views about God. God is what He is regardless of what I or anyone else believes about Him. If I want to be right in my religion, I must give up my ideas, beliefs, opinions, and traditions about what God is like, and seek to find out what He is like in reality

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Modern Myth #8 — Self-Indulgence Satisfies

Modern Myth #8

Have you ever noticed that compulsive desires are never satisfied by indulging them – that cravings are not eliminated by giving in to them? For example, if you eat a bite of something sweet that you crave, you immediately want another bite. That’s because feeding a desire fuels its fire! People who are weight watchers know that: “To indulge is to bluge.” And addicts say: “One is too much but 1,000 is not enough.

Society encourages us to obey the myth that says “self-indulgence is satisfying,” but the more self is indulged, the more self clamors for, until we become little more than slaves to our self-demands. Far from being satisfying, self-indulgence brings bondage.

The truth is that compulsions, cravings, and desires are satisfied by self-restraint, not not by self-indulgence. Restrained cravings will cease their control and their clammoring within a few weeks, while fed feelings are forever fanned into flames.

Leslie Vernick puts it this way in this quotation: “When we feel unhappy or hurt, lonely or unloved, we wrongly believe that we will feel better if we indulge ourselves. That is not true. The results of a self-indulgent psyche or lifestyle are not happiness and good self-esteem, but bondage.”

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Occupy Till I Come — What The Church Can Learn From Occupy Wall Street

In Luke 19:13 of the King James Bible, Jesus says:  “Occupy till I come.”  Somehow, I don’t think “occupy” means to sit in a pew once a week and passively listen to a sermon.  “Occupy” is much more aggressive than that.

A good example of this is the Occupy Wall Street Movement which consists of ongoing demonstrations in New York City and around the world.  The people involved in this movement are not passively siting in a building once a week.  They are on the streets, day after day, clamoring for change.  They are forceful, determined, and committed.

Have you ever seen a group of Christians with that kind of passion and persistence and willing to sacrifice for what they believe in?  To occupy is to take and hold territory.  Occupiers don’t become like the land they occupy.  Instead occupiers strive to mold the land they occupy into the image of their mother country.

Perhaps it is time for the church to take Jesus’ instructions to “occupy” seriously.  Perhaps believers should stop letting themselves be brainwashed by this selfish culture and instead begin to live by the culture of Heaven.  Rather than being swept along with the trends of society, what if believers instead actually followed and obeyed the teachings and lifestyle of Jesus?

Protesting greed in other people won’t change our society.  However, repenting of the greed within our own hearts and embracing Jesus’ example of laying down His life for others, would be a good first step.

The occupiers of Wall Street and other streets around the world are bold and courageous to stand up for what they believe in.  The church could learn a lot from their example.

If you live in Nashville, help us occupy the McFerrin Park neighborhood of East Nashville.  Stand with us on Sunday mornings at 10:45 at 225 Berry Street, 37207 — The Salvation Army Berry Street Worship Center.

Check out my new book, Beyond Church — An Invitation To Experience The Lost Word Of The Bible — Ekklesia; available at Amazon.

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Modern Myth #7 — All Lifestyles Are Equal

The popular belief that all lifestyles are equal is an obvious myth. Take the lifestyle of alcohol and drug abuse for example. It produces intense emotional pain, broken homes, slavery to compulsion, criminal activity, moral collapse, and jail or prison time. Ask an addict and he or she will tell you that his lifestyle is far worse than a lifestyle of sobriety.

How about the lifestyle of adultery? Is it equal to the lifestyle of faithfulness to your spouse? Let me ask you this: Would you rather your spouse be faithful to you or would you rather he or she commit adultery whenever the whim comes to mind? Obviously these two lifestyle choices are not equal!

The myth that “all lifestyles are equal” has yanked the meaning out of two important words — repent and righteousness. Repent means “to change your lifestyle.” If all lifestyles are equal repentance becomes meaningless because people falsely believe that there is no need for them to change the way they are living.

Righteousness means “right living.” If all lifestyles are equal, then there is no such thing as right living.

You may choose to accept the misery making myth that ”all lifestyes are equal.” But wouldn’t it be better to work hard to repent of every wrongful thought, word, and behavior; and to strive daily to live right?

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Should People Have The Right To Make Other People Say Wrong Is Right?

Nobody should have the right to make other people say that wrong is right?  Everybody should have the right to believe in right and wrong and to freely express their belief. 

However, the right to believe in right and wrong has been under attack for some years.  People who maintain a strong belief in the common moral standards shared by most of the cultures in world history are nowadays being labeled as intolerant and judgmental by much of our contemporary media.

People, today, are not satisfied to merely violate moral standards (as people have done through out human history).  Now they insist that those standards be made to conform to their behaviors.  They demand that their behaviors be accepted, approved, and applauded. 

Is this fair?  Is it fair to pressure people to violate their conscience?  Is it fair to try to push people into approving of behaviors that they sincerely believe are morally wrong?  Surely not.

“If anyone will take the trouble to compare the moral teaching of say, the ancient Egyptians, Babylonians, Hindus, Chinese, Greeks, and Romans, what will really strike him will be how very like they are to each other and to our own.”  –quotation from C.S. Lewis

You have a right to follow your own conscience and to believe and express what your conscience tells you.  You have the right to stand up for the shared moral values of most of humanity.  Society has no right to silence you!

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